I'm *not* going back to work, so stop asking!

Stay at home moms, I know you'll *get* this....

First of all let me start of with saying that my position on the question of working vs. staying home is this:There is no *right* answer. There is only the answer that is right for your family. I think most moms are conflicted about their decision not matter what it may be. For my family, the decision was for me to stay home.

I cannot count how many insensitive, unthinking and rude things have been said to me since I quit working my full-time job in the workforce to be a full-time stay at home mom. It has been assumed:
*I am lazy.
*I do nothing all day.
*Being a SAHM is easy.
*Being a SAHM is boring.

First of all I don't have time to get bored. Ha. To the other 3 comments, I say this: I work from the time I get up in the morning (between 6:30-7:30 depending on the day) and the time I go to bed at night, usually around midnight. I work every day, even when I'm sick, tired, sad or on vacation with my family. So I'm not lazy. It's not easy, boring or a "do nothing" type of situation.

I have been asked when I'm going back to work. As though staying home with my children is only acceptable for a certain amount of time. Who can really define how long they *need* me at home anyway? Does a teenager need his mom less than a toddler? Who can be sure? This question doubly annoys me because everyone who knows me is aware that I am a full time college student. Although I will be graduating with my A.A in Political Science this December that doesn't mean that I'm finished or that I could get a suitable job because I will have that degree. Anyone who has listened to my endless ramblings about my career ambitions knows that I plan on going on to get my B.A. in Political Science and to follow with post-graduate education. So I'm far from done with school. Being a college student alone is a "full-time job".

Believe it or not, I have even been told that I should obey my husband because he makes the money. Well, nuts to that! *He* is the one working because his job paid more than mine and provided more opportunity for advancement. Otherwise he would have quit to stay home when Abby was born. We actually save money this way.

So to those out there who think stay at home moms have it easy, we don't.

It's not that complaining about being a stay at home mom. I love being a SAHM. I adore my kids and I love being with them. I'm happy with my choice to stay home. What I don't enjoy is being belittled about my choice or the insinuations that I'm not as good a person as moms who work outside the home.