Girlfriend Wanted

I miss having a close girlfriend. I miss having someone to talk to every day and meet up with a few times a week. Not that I don't have girlfriends... But they all live 1/2 an hour away at least.

They have husbands, jobs, children, etc... I guess that one of the downsides of "growing up" is that you don't have as much time for your friends as you used to. You become to busy to really stay in touch. You don't have time for the daily phone calls anymore. You don't have time to take a shower sometimes, let alone time to hang out with a friend. The marathon gab sessions eventually become weekly emails. And you realize that you don't really know your girlfriends anymore. You don't know their favorite food anymore or what they think of Brad Pitt dating Angelina Jolie. You just know that they are busy at work, etc.

Being a stay at home mom can be really lonely sometimes. Sure I have my children with me and they are a lot of fun to be with. But I crave adult interaction. And not just any adult....the kind of company only a close friend can provide. *sigh*

There is something different about a close a friendship between women. You can definitely talk to other women about things you'd never dare bring up to your husband or your mother. A girlfriend understands how crucial it is that you find time for a pedicure. She understands when you ask if those pants make your ass look too big. And she understands when you are worried because you haven't had sex in 2 weeks.

But the less we talk to each other, the harder it becomes to broach these subjects. There is an awkardness that comes with not talking enough. How do you wade through the small talk to find your way back to being best friends again?


"The connections between and among women are…the most potentially transforming force on the planet."
— Adrienne Rich